The questions changed.

I have been curious about people for as long as I can remember.

As a child, I wanted to understand why one person behaved in a certain way and another so differently. Later, I began to wonder why some people seemed able to create the lives they wanted while others, often just as capable, did not. The questions changed. The curiosity remained.

That curiosity led me first to study law and later into business and executive search. Even in business, my attention was usually on the person in front of me. I wanted to understand what mattered to them, what they needed and how to speak to them in a language that felt natural. People often came to me with questions that had little to do with work. They wanted another perspective.

A life that looked complete.

When I moved to Switzerland at the age of thirty, I entered a world very different from the one I had known. I built a life that looked successful and complete from the outside. I was grateful for what I had, but something essential was missing. I had moved too far from my own values, and the life I had built no longer felt like an expression of who I was.

The people around me could not understand why I felt unsettled, and for a while, neither could I.

It took me time to understand what that distance meant. Courage and authenticity still mattered deeply to me, but they no longer guided the way I lived. I knew how to live that life. I could no longer find myself in it.

Belonging to myself.

Looking back, I can see that my directness sometimes carried the frustration of someone who felt unseen. I was fighting to be recognised while giving other people far too much power to define me.

Eventually, I understood that belonging was not something other people could give me. I belong to myself. Once I understood that, I no longer needed to argue for my place. I knew who I was and what I brought into a room.

Seeing the pattern. Naming what was happening.

It was through my own experience of therapy that I began to recognise, both intellectually and emotionally, what I had been living through. Psychology gave me a way to understand experiences I had previously struggled to name. Since then, my thinking has been shaped by years of study in psychology, applied neuroscience and psychoanalytic thought.

That way of looking at experience now shapes my private work with people.

This website is, in many ways, a continuation of that curiosity.

A collection of thoughts and observations on human behaviour, relationships and change.

Thoughts ↗